Thinking Good Thoughts
Not too long ago, I was watching my daughter play in a volleyball tournament. Her team is fairly capable and manage to stay competitive in most matches. During their matches, I noticed an interesting phenomena that was true of all the teams I watched. There was a time when one bad shot led to another. […]
How Are You Addressing Your Root?
“‘Sir,’ the man replied, ‘leave it alone for one more year, and I’ll dig around it and fertilize it. – Luke 13:8 All of us tend to classify people into categories. Good or bad. Saved or lost. Successful or lazy. Jesus was talking to a group of people that had assumed they were better, or […]
Are you keeping people out?
In relationships, all of us have a part of our self that we attempt to protect. For some, the process of growing in relationship means addressing those walls and removing them. Choosing to trust and allow vulnerability. On the other hand, for others a wall seems a necessity and they work to build it up […]
It Was Not My Whole Life
For a golfer, it was a dream come true. In 1999, after playing 71 holes Jean Van de Velde led the British Open by three strokes. There was just one hole to play. This was a seemingly insurmountable lead. What awaited at the end of this hole was his name engraved in arguably the most […]
An Overlooked Discipline
During a coaching session not too long ago, I received an unusual answer to the question “what do you want to work on today?” My client had worked on several leadership challenges and chose this day to respond “Scott, I don’t have any recreation in my life. I don’t do anything for fun.” He didn’t have […]
Three Bits of Advice for My Daughter About Relationships
My daughter is finishing up her freshman year of high school. For her, the experience was a virtually new beginning, as she was zoned for a school apart from her cohort of friends. Navigating this year has brought new friendships and observing friends enter into ‘romantic’ relationships. While she has not yet expressed interest in […]
Driving on a Florida two-lane road recently, I got behind someone behaving erratically. The car was swerving from one side of the lane to the other. Not maintaining the speed limit, a line of traffic had build up behind this car. Every once in awhile there would be a tap of the brakes for no […]
Four Obstacles to Gratitude
When the Israelites turned to Him in their distress, God remembered His people and provided a deliverer for them. By saving them, God was claiming them as His people and extending an invitation for the Israelites to see themselves as His people. God was giving them a new identity. As they followed Moses through the […]
Ronda Rousey and Identity
I don’t follow the sport of mixed martial arts (MMA) and I’m not really a fan. But, it has been impossible not to be aware of who Ronda Rousey is. For some time she has been considered the greatest female fighter ever, was sporting an undefeated record, was making the crossover into acting and modeling, […]
Why Do You Change?
Human being are dynamic creatures. Every one of us changes in response to situations and circumstances. It is part of how we were designed to adapt. Particularly in response to relationships. To some degree, all relationships challenge our perception of self as competent and worthy of approval. But marriage is unique in the depth of vulnerability […]