Men and Women, Episode 2
All of us have been created as image bearers of God. Yet, unmistakably, men and women have been created differently, each imaging their Creator in different ways.
Masculinity and femininity are different yet equal, and complementary. At the most basic level, the physical, the masculine and feminine were made to join together.
As my daughter continues to get older, in an aging process that I cannot stop and is passing in a blink of an eye, it becomes more and more clear how our sense of masculinity and femininity is imprinted upon us.
An imprint that will help to generate both the truths and the lies that we will believe about our Self. The lies that will influence where we seek identity, the source of our false self.
As my daughter is growing and developing her sense of femininity, she has two examples. My wife, living out her own femininity, giving our daughter a picture of what femininity looks like – including how it responds to a masculine presence.
In our interactions, being the opposite sex parent, I am to allow my daughter to feel her femininity. What does healthy comfort and security feel like in the presence masculine strength. What does it feel like to be valued, to have a door opened, a loving hug, to be prayed over, and encouraged.
Just as our daughter receives the positive, my wife and I are also – along with the rest of humanity – broken image bearers. In the process of restoration, but broken nonetheless. So, daughter also sees the struggles we both have overcoming our own lies and living into our own masculinity and femininity. That’s how lies are passed on through family systems.
Of course, the reverse would be true with a son. Fathers give a picture of what masculine strength looks like, and the mother would allow the son to feel his masculinity.
Father and mother are to be the key voices in developing their kids. Yet, they are not the only voices. And that is where care must be taken in parenting.
Our culture is media driven. Competitive. Image conscious. All that influences my daughter. And yours. And your sons.
Advertising. Music. TV. Movies. Video games. Magazine covers. People at the mall. All give varying pictures of what masculinity and femininity means. How it is lived out. How it relates to the other.
What picture of masculinity or femininity are you crafting for your Self and your children?