Shaking My Head

Posted on March 27, 2015 | 10 comments

I believe that the text and twitter jargon for ‘shaking my head’ is smh or #smh. And I am doing that vigorously, right now as I type.

On a sports website I just read a very inspiring story about the work that Tim Tebow is presently doing, using his platform to raise money  for his charities that help children. (For an earlier post on Tebow, click here.)

This is something that followers of Christ should be unified behind. Someone actively expressing their faith through their works. Whether you agree with his doctrinal stances or public prayers or his virginity until marriage, here is someone who openly states that his motivation for what he does is gratitude for what Jesus has done for him.

All of us should be cheering him on in his efforts.

So, what do I see when I look at the comments that followed the article?

Arguments. Insults.

Among Christians.

About doctrine.


And it is not just this one instance. I’ve seen it in response to tweets, facebook posts, and instagram blurbs.

There is more desire to be right rather than living in humility. That is pride and it is the source of the false self.

Needing to be right is more about an insecure identity than promoting truth.

How does this look to those who are not following Christ?

It is contentiousness. And to those outside Christ it looks like members of the same team firing bullets at each other. Unfortunately, friendly fire is something Christians are good at.

It provides a hurdle to those outside coming into Christ. Why enter into something in which members of the community are going to become the first line of accusers and attackers.

And it is a reason why followers of Christ continue to lose influence in the lives of the lost. When we are not one, we do not reflect our one Father.

Our words have affect. Our words also have effect. They are intended to build up and express the hope of a gospel of redemption and reconciliation.

Do your words build up your own kingdom or the kingdom of God? Evaluate how your words build others up? 

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  1. Hopping over from Unite link-up party. This is so true, “There is more desire to be right rather than living in humility.” And this prideful desire to be right often blinds us to the truth and we lose sight of God’s purpose. This is something I always need to remind myself.

  2. You are so right! The words have huge impact in our lives. Thank you for the reminder of using them for the good and to bringing people to Christ.

  3. I am #smh with you. Our contentiousness does not show the world anything about love. 🙁 May we find our unity in Christ and stay there.

  4. Great Post! I for one am cheering!
    Thank you so much for sharing with us at Brag About It!

  5. Stopping by after seeing you link up with Shelia. My grandma once said that religion was a way for the devil to bring separation among the Christians. Sometimes I wonder if that isn’t true because of stories like this one. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!

  6. I know that we are human but this is the thing that turns me off the most about Christians. We were called to love our neighbor as we love Jesus. We need to remember to put the first thing first.

  7. “Needing to be right is more about an insecure identity than promoting truth.”

    This is the crux of the matter isn’t it? Do we want to be right or do we want to know and live the Truth?

    Great post.

  8. I agree, Christians need to start standing together to fight for our rights as Christians instead of giving unbelievers more fuel to use against God. Thanks for sharing this post at other link ups.

  9. Yes, I agree with you and wonder why Christians treat each other the way they do. We are supposed to live a life for Christ but in reality we are also criticized for it. #smh Have a blessed Easter and thank you for linking up at The Weekend Brew.

  10. Gah. This makes my heart sad, Scott. It makes me #SMH too when I see our fellow believers being silly and unloving in this way. I pray for unity within the Big-C Church so we can ALL bring glory to God. So appreciate this post (and your passion behind it!)

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