Not too long ago, I was watching my daughter play in a volleyball tournament. Her team is fairly capable and manage to stay competitive in most matches.
During their matches, I noticed an interesting phenomena that was true of all the teams I watched. There was a time when one bad shot led to another. As a couple lost points were strung together, heads started to go down and shoulders slumped forward. Regardless of record or score, it would become contagious.
It is so easy to dwell on the negative. Mistakes are easier to keep in the front of our minds than successes.
In volleyball, this caused the players to lose energy and have trouble moving forward.
And I thought that this is so true in our spiritual lives as well.
It is so easy to get captured by our lies. When we make a mistake or do not meet an expectation or experience a failure then what were once distant echos can become louder.
I am a failure.
I am ugly.
I am a disappointment.
I am unforgivable.
I am unwanted.
And the list of the limiting beliefs and false narratives that we believe about our selves could go on and on.
Ultimately, these lies are the result of your focus not being on the source of your true self, the identity you have in Christ. The apostle Paul wrote to the Philippian believers and told them:
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. – Philippians 4:8
Think about what is good. Think about what is true. Think about what is excellent.
Don’t think about the subjective, rather think about what is pure.
The purest, truest, and most excellent thing about you is that you are loved by God. Jesus is the testimony of that love. Even when circumstances would have you draw your eyes away or doubt you have constant assurance that God notices you by Jesus’ presence in the world.
Think good thoughts. Always. Thoughts about how your value is not determined by your performance, perfection, human approval, or power.
Your significance is set in stone by Christ.
Now think about that.
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