Thinking Good Thoughts

Posted on September 20, 2016 | 4 comments

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Not too long ago, I was watching my daughter play in a volleyball tournament. Her team is fairly capable and manage to stay competitive in most matches.

During their matches, I noticed an interesting phenomena that was true of all the teams I watched. There was a time when one bad shot led to another. As a couple lost points were strung together, heads started to go down and shoulders slumped forward. Regardless of record or score, it would become contagious.

It is so easy to dwell on the negative. Mistakes are easier to keep in the front of our minds than successes.

In volleyball, this caused the players to lose energy and have trouble moving forward.

And I thought that this is so true in our spiritual lives as well.

It is so easy to get captured by our lies. When we make a mistake or do not meet an expectation or experience a failure then what were once distant echos can become louder.

I am a failure.

I am ugly.

I am a disappointment.

I am unforgivable.

I am unwanted.

And the list of the limiting beliefs and false narratives that we believe about our selves could go on and on.

Ultimately, these lies are the result of your focus not being on the source of your true self, the identity you have in Christ. The apostle Paul wrote to the Philippian believers and told them:

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. – Philippians 4:8

Think about what is good. Think about what is true. Think about what is excellent.

Don’t think about the subjective, rather think about what is pure.

The purest, truest, and most excellent thing about you is that you are loved by God. Jesus is the testimony of that love. Even when circumstances would have you draw your eyes away or doubt you have constant assurance that God notices you by Jesus’ presence in the world.

Think good thoughts. Always. Thoughts about how your value is not determined by your performance, perfection, human approval, or power.

Your significance is set in stone by Christ.

Now think about that.


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  1. Yes, disappointments can be contagious. I do hope your daughter’s team rallied and won their game. Our thoughts can pull us down if we allow the negative to rule over us. This is why it is important to get a good image of who we are in Christ and avoid listening to the lies of our enemy. Thank you for a wonderful post you have shared with us here at Tell me a Story.

  2. Yes and Amen! I love this line right here: “The purest, truest, and most excellent thing about you is that you are loved by God. ” That is just exactly it! Great post!

  3. Yes, ultimately the lies are a result of focus on being on our true identiy in Christ! And it is always God’s plan to redirect our focus and replace the lies with His truth. So spot on in all of this! Thanks so much for joining the Fresh Market Friday link-up and look forward to more great messages!

  4. Hey Scott! It’s great to see you back at #MomentsofHope! Your words always point us to the hope found in Christ! I love the analogy here to volleyball. My boys are avid basketball players and I could so identify with what you mentioned. I have used this scripture to encourage my boys through those times. Lately it’s been Hebrew 12:1-2 🙂 Focus on your purpose. Don’t let the distractions of the world impact what you are doing. Ignore the fans, the “unfair” calls, the cheap shots, the inappropriate language, and simply do what God has called you to do! I love all the ways I’ve been able to speak truth into the lives of my boys as they pursue their love of sports!


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