I’ll admit it, I like the Meghan Trainor song All About That Bass. It is on my iPhone. It’s catchy and I can sing and dance to it (thought that is something none of you will ever see – you can thank me when you see me).
Also, I do appreciate the message of the damaging affects of comparison. (See What Comparison Does)
Comparison erodes our sense of who we are and deprives us all of dignity. Those around us are deprived of their humanity by our using them as a measuring stick for our worth and significance. Our self is eroded because comparison causes us to live in a constant state of dissatisfaction.
When we live in comparison, we can not develop healthy self-acceptance. (See What is Acceptance?)
Church leaders compare the size of their churches to those around them, or to the mega-church that they’d like to be.
Church leaders compare their leadership style to that of others, and end up trying to be something they are not.
Church leaders compare their spouses to the Proverbs 31 or some other ideal, and the spouse feels the weight of that expectation.
There is always something else to compare.
But, here is the thing about the song’s message…
Every inch of me is NOT perfect, from the bottom to the top.
Many of us eat for comfort. That is not perfect.
Many of us seek to control others. That is not perfect.
Many of us make decisions at the expense of others. That is not perfect.
Our tendency to compare is a symptom of the false self (the old nature) trying to create in us a sense of value and significance. Comparison – whether it be body image or church size – is a product of an identity not rooted in Christ.
We are all broken image bearers (See Shattering the Image) attempting to achieve restoration and wholeness.
If we are to grow and change in healthy ways, we cannot call brokenness wholeness, we must develop awareness of our brokenness to takes steps towards wholeness. In Christ, that is possible.
In your world, what is the comparison you are likely to make?
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